Comments on: Beauty, Part VIII ~ A Man’s Perspective http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 15:41:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ By: Birgit http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-1300 Birgit Tue, 12 Aug 2008 10:19:37 +0000 http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-1300 Dear Elle, thank you so much for your thoughts and insights on this topic. It is true that we as women can feel hurt, insecure and even "not enough" if our husbands/fiances/boyfriends look at other women in terms of their bodies, attractiveness etc. We can take this to heart and it can even make us feel vulnerable sometimes. One thing I have learnt more about through Christian teaching is the battle that a lot of men have in this area. That even in loving relationships, and with intentions to honour us and honour God, this can be an ongoing area of struggle. Something where so much of God's grace is needed. That God would continue to strengthen our husbands, strengthen our marriages and strengthen us too. God bless, and thanks again for your insights. Dear Elle, thank you so much for your thoughts and insights on this topic.
It is true that we as women can feel hurt, insecure and even “not enough” if our husbands/fiances/boyfriends look at other women in terms of their bodies, attractiveness etc. We can take this to heart and it can even make us feel vulnerable sometimes.
One thing I have learnt more about through Christian teaching is the battle that a lot of men have in this area. That even in loving relationships, and with intentions to honour us and honour God, this can be an ongoing area of struggle. Something where so much of God’s grace is needed. That God would continue to strengthen our husbands, strengthen our marriages and strengthen us too. God bless, and thanks again for your insights.

]]> By: Elle http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-1298 Elle Tue, 12 Aug 2008 04:58:59 +0000 http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-1298 Okay, so my opinion of why women are so hard on themselves regarding their bodies or the way they look is, because when we are in a relationship with a man or marriage or engaged, and we are depserately wanting to ALWAYS please our man; never lose his attention and focus, we find that inevitably they ARE going to look at other women! Why? Why do men look at other women IF they are COMPLETELY satisfied at home with who they are with? My fiance' and I had a discussion one day. Some friends of ours went to the beach and some, obviously trashy, woman lay next to them and removed her bathing siut top. I asked my fiance' what he might have done...(ie. move to another spot?). His response was that he would proably want to move. I asked if he would look at her, and he said yes, probably. I asked why he thought he would look at her, and he said "I don't know, curiosity I guess." Curiosity in what exactly? If you have a woman next to you, and you know ALL women have the same package, why would a man be curious to look at another woman? So, I asked what his definition of curious was...he stated probably curious about the unknown... the unknown...like, a man doesn't know what a woman's body, in general, looks like? Now, my fiance' is a man of God, who takes in study daily and wants NOTHING more than God's perfect will in his life. he is also very honest, and would NEVER lie to me, so I bring a lot of insecurity upon myself. However, these are questions I ask, because obviously if he is noticing other women he isn't satisfied with the one he is with...ME! Why aren't men satisfied with their women they have, and if they are satisfied why would they even care to look or find out what another woman is or has? I say, it is not so much the media or magazines, it is that we see our men noticing othe types of bodies on women, and this makes us feel that we need to look a completely different way entirely! Men are with who they're with, because they know that, "she is the type of woman I SHOULD be with;" NOT really waiting for the type of woman they feel idealy fits their desire or schema. Why don't men wait? Why are they in such a hurry to be with someone? All that will happen from a rash decision is 5-10 years after commitment they will continue their subconcious search for the type of woman they think is what they really want... -Confused Okay, so my opinion of why women are so hard on themselves regarding their bodies or the way they look is, because when we are in a relationship with a man or marriage or engaged, and we are depserately wanting to ALWAYS please our man; never lose his attention and focus, we find that inevitably they ARE going to look at other women! Why? Why do men look at other women IF they are COMPLETELY satisfied at home with who they are with? My fiance’ and I had a discussion one day. Some friends of ours went to the beach and some, obviously trashy, woman lay next to them and removed her bathing siut top. I asked my fiance’ what he might have done…(ie. move to another spot?). His response was that he would proably want to move. I asked if he would look at her, and he said yes, probably. I asked why he thought he would look at her, and he said “I don’t know, curiosity I guess.” Curiosity in what exactly? If you have a woman next to you, and you know ALL women have the same package, why would a man be curious to look at another woman? So, I asked what his definition of curious was…he stated probably curious about the unknown… the unknown…like, a man doesn’t know what a woman’s body, in general, looks like? Now, my fiance’ is a man of God, who takes in study daily and wants NOTHING more than God’s perfect will in his life. he is also very honest, and would NEVER lie to me, so I bring a lot of insecurity upon myself. However, these are questions I ask, because obviously if he is noticing other women he isn’t satisfied with the one he is with…ME!

Why aren’t men satisfied with their women they have, and if they are satisfied why would they even care to look or find out what another woman is or has?

I say, it is not so much the media or magazines, it is that we see our men noticing othe types of bodies on women, and this makes us feel that we need to look a completely different way entirely! Men are with who they’re with, because they know that, “she is the type of woman I SHOULD be with;” NOT really waiting for the type of woman they feel idealy fits their desire or schema. Why don’t men wait? Why are they in such a hurry to be with someone? All that will happen from a rash decision is 5-10 years after commitment they will continue their subconcious search for the type of woman they think is what they really want…

-Confused

]]> By: inspiredbrio http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-587 inspiredbrio Sun, 03 Feb 2008 02:46:04 +0000 http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-587 check out the modesty survey at www.therebelution.com It was a blessing to be to see these perspectives. check out the modesty survey at http://www.therebelution.com
It was a blessing to be to see these perspectives.

]]> By: Sandy-lee http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-292 Sandy-lee Fri, 24 Aug 2007 14:55:47 +0000 http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-292 This is such a refreshing perspective which has eased my spirit in some ways. Great stuff Birgs. xx This is such a refreshing perspective which has eased my spirit in some ways. Great stuff Birgs.

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]]> By: Bert Graef http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-276 Bert Graef Tue, 21 Aug 2007 05:17:01 +0000 http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-276 Hmmmm...... Why is it that women just think all we men want to do is have sex and lust after thier bodies? That just comes from the goofy magazines we see on the newsstands with the unabashed and blatant sex articles and the myriad of skanks adorning them . A women is much more than that. She is love, warmth,companionship, company, help, solace, joy,someone to comfort and be comforted,someone a man wants to be around, a source of inspiration,maybe a bit of perspiration sometimes lol.That is the true beauty men find so attractive about females, that God just designed them so interesting to be around. I just cant figure out why so many women just think of us the way magazines say we are. Hmmmm……
Why is it that women just think all we men want to do is have sex and lust after thier bodies? That just comes from the goofy magazines we see on the newsstands with the unabashed and blatant sex articles and the myriad of skanks adorning them .
A women is much more than that. She is love, warmth,companionship, company, help, solace, joy,someone to comfort and be comforted,someone a man wants to be around, a source of inspiration,maybe a bit of perspiration sometimes lol.That is the true beauty men find so attractive about females, that God just designed them so interesting to be around. I just cant figure out why so many women just think of us the way magazines say we are.

]]> By: Cyril Almond http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-267 Cyril Almond Sun, 19 Aug 2007 17:51:14 +0000 http://birgitwhelan.com/2007/08/17/beauty-part-viii-a-mans-perspective/#comment-267 My wife Julia had an ash blond type of hair. It had been that way from when she was young. She was buried under rubble in the blitz and some time before she was found. Often when out for dinner some wife would send her husband to ask what colour she was using. The hair brought people to her, but it was the grace of God that she walked in that was the atraction.Yesterday i gave away one of our spiritual dughters at her wedding. Julia was in hospital and this girl who was there as well asked her right out of the blue. will you be my mum, it is not the looks it is what is inside that realy counts. She was content in our lord Jesus and it showed. A Godly woman will be a beuty to behold anywhere. and the bonus? she has wisdom, the bible says so! My wife Julia had an ash blond type of hair. It had been that way from when she was young. She was buried under rubble in the blitz and some time before she was found. Often when out for dinner some wife would send her husband to ask what colour she was using. The hair brought people to her, but it was the grace of God that she walked in that was the atraction.Yesterday i gave away one of our spiritual dughters at her wedding. Julia was in hospital and this girl who was there as well asked her right out of the blue. will you be my mum, it is not the looks it is what is inside that realy counts. She was content in our lord Jesus and it showed. A Godly woman will be a beuty to behold anywhere. and the bonus? she has wisdom, the bible says so!

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